The Only Person That I Can Ever Change Is Me
My prescription for peace within myself and within the world is simply that: Focus on the only thing that we can ever change: ourselves. Yesterday, I listened to a friend telling me what a horrible day she had one day this week and that’s all I could think of the while she told the story: The only person I can ever change is me. She told me how … more …
Become The Story You Create
Today I was doing my morning reading of the New York Times when an article by Judith Warner caught my eye that reminded me of a conversation that I was just having with a friend about her daughters and her inability to keep their problems from becoming hers. I ran across this jewel that I [...]
I am Strange and that is Good
On my walk for the past few days I have been working on accepting myself just as I am. I have been celebrating and affirming my Self in every way. I spent decades trying to be like others or wishing that I could be more like other people or fit in better with the rest [...]
Celebrating 50 Years of Life
Today is my 50th birthday and I choose to celebrate my own survival and prosperity this day. I claim every good thing for myself. I look forward to a whole new decade of discovery and growth. I thank the universe for helping me to get over my self [self and negative perceptions of my personality [...]
Arguments and Panic Attacks
When I started this blog, I wanted it to be brutally honest and deeply personal. It is hard to do that when I am really upset and things look really bleak in my life. I know that to really help others however I need to share the tough times as well as the good.
I often panic when I have [...]
Grateful for My Mother
I have not always been grateful for my mother and when she died we were not on the best of terms. Recently my perspective has been changing somewhat as I have been helping a friend whose children keep pushing her away saying they aren’t responsible for taking care of her now that she is getting older and weaker. It [...]
Abundance
Just a note. When you think your life is hard, take a moment to think what it is like in poorer countries: See this comparison of what families around the world eat in one week. You might feel differently after seeing this.
I am grateful for the roof over my head, for the friends and family in my life, [...]
Stop Drawing Negative Energy To Yourself
I went for a walk the other day with a very good friend. Everything was going well until we stepped out the front door. All of a sudden everything went sour. Whatever was going on in the street that was bad, he drew right into us. A person whistling to get someone else’s attention really seemed [...]
Sometimes You Just Need To Say It
There is no handbook for relationships and sometimes I just don’t know when I should shut up or when I should just say what I have to say. There are no hard fast rules on these things and deciding what to do, when to speak up seems like an impossible task.
Recently I learned that I [...]
Learning to Listen
One of the things that I am learning right now is how to listen.
At times when I listen to friends talk about their problems I am tempted to jump in and try to offer solutions even before they have finished describing the situation. At other times I feel overwhelmed by what they are saying and have a hard [...]